Do you ever get instantly angry, because of something that someone does to you?
This happens to me sometimes in stores. It’s more frequent while driving.
Someone cuts me off in traffic, and my blood goes from 98 degrees (not the boy band) to boiling point in under a second.
As angry as I am, though, I don’t really hate them. I don’t really want revenge. I’m just… mad.
To instantly diffuse that anger, I started giving out mental hugs.
Even though I’m mad, I pretend to give them a hug.
It does two things:
- Makes me realize their humanity. They are a person, just like me, who is sometimes selfish, broken, messed up, or whatever else… just like me.
- Makes me laugh. It’s completely ridiculous, and that lightens me right up.
Give it a try, it’s kinda funny. And it sure beats fuming over it for the next 30 minutes.